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Ninety days of summer quickly flew by and I am now trying to gather my thoughts as I start my junior year. I have a list of goals that I want to accomplish and I’m going to accomplish every last one of them. Because of this summer, I’ve learned some lessons and I feel that I need to share them with you all.
It all started in June….
I was frustrated, I felt like a bum. Like others my age when we don’t get what we want when we want it, we get frustrated and feel like our world has come to an end. I was now thrown into a pool with other twenty somethings who are unemployed, broke, tired and frustrated.
June was the start of lesson 1: patience.
Every month there was a lesson learned or a previous lesson that was retouched on because maybe I haven’t learned the first time.
Mid June my idea of being a bum has been erased as I received a call from The Columbia Urban League regarding an offer as a camp counselor for inner city youth. That’s the way the guy explained it to me on the phone but I ended up being a teacher’s assistant, teaching children ages 10-13 soft skills that their parents aren’t able to teach them at home.
I was relieved, not only was I working but I was also giving back. After a while the money didn’t matter because each day I made sure those kids walked out of camp with confidence and hope.
Then July, I gained a second job as an assistant to the program director of Columbia Urban League’s Level Up program in Richland county. I basically helped her with the itinerary for each day, answered phone calls, helped participants with time sheets and came up with ideas for upcoming participant meetings.
That’s where I found lesson 2: Modesty
I was patient and therefore I received. I was humble and I continued to receive.
I learned from the kids at camp everyday to be grateful and to be patient.
My summer went from low to high in a matter of sixty days and I was nothing but grateful.
By the end of July going into August, I prepared for school. This summer was REALLY a learning experience rather than an earning experience. I enjoyed everything about it, even my struggle. I earned my “[b]lessons” and I say that because my blessings were my lessons which shaped me for junior year.
Message to you, the reader: don’t ever be discouraged, be patient, and humble yourself it could be worse. Any lesson that you learn in life is a [b]lesson from here on out.
Everybody wants a loyal person, everybody wants a companion; someone they can rely on. Someone who is 100% genuine.
This applies to all relationships: friendships, courtships etc.
We all want that opportunity to encounter someone who’s genuine. The REAL about that is:
No one is perfect.
No one is capable to meet the needs of one another. We want that. We honestly don’t need half of the things we want out of a person.
If we want real, we have to be real with ourselves first.
I remember I had a crush on a guy and he was everything I wanted: quiet, tall, nice taste in style, nice hair, nice teeth, he was just everything to me. As time transpired, I told him how I felt about him, he told me he was talking to someone.
It could’ve been worse. He could’ve gotten my number and added it to his contacts and yall know how that goes. He was real with me which I respected.
Even though he told me he was talking to someone else I still had a crush on him. I didn’t push up on him, I didn’t pursue anything I just let it be. It was easier to talk to him after and we always crossed paths on campus. He didn’t just become some guy I liked, he remained on my mind. Weirdly, he became an infatuation.
I admired him, for being real with me that I sort of still had a crush on him. I can relate to what you all post in the middle of the night about loyalty and realness even though I received a glimpse of it. It’s a great feeling knowing that you can trust someone even better when you experience it first encounter.
I took a step back and evaluated myself because I had to be real with myself for a second. No he wasn’t out of my league (for the record no one is out of your league), no he wasn’t perfect and no I wasn’t about to chase anybody who isn’t interested in me.
So I faced it, he wasn’t interested.
It was cool.
After I rationed out the pros and cons I realized I wasn’t real with myself & he wasn’t [real]ly for me. Real attracts real. So be real with yourself, get to know yourself and someone will come along.
With friendships, you have to go through trial and error to figure out who’s real and who’s not. Some people isolate themselves from people as a whole to avoid fake friendships.
Again, no one is perfect.
So as with courtship, friendship is something you would have to acquire through being real with yourself. You know what you can and can’t tolerate. You know what you stand for and if that person doesn’t cut it then be real with yourself and let them go.
Everybody doesn’t deserve to be in your life, it’s okay. You can be that person who isolates themselves from crowds of people if you think that’s best for you and you’re happy. Now don’t isolate yourself because you’re mad at someone or just mad that’s not cool.
Communicate, let others know how you feel. If they don’t respect that then they weren’t your friends in the first place.
Whatever goes on whether in friendship or courtship remember to be real with yourself first, face it, and make sure you’re happy.
Feel free to comment. I want to know your views and opinions. 😊